Who’s Sitting at Your Table?
Good morning! Not much time to blog today. A thought crossed my mind I don’t have to write a blog every day that takes an hour of my time. A short blog is just as good as a long one.
I cannot begin to tell you how valuable the course in The Psychology of Eating has been for me. I have had so many insights in this training. I am very excited to begin sharing with all of you. I graduate June 1, 2017.
Do you use food to feel better? If you do, you are not alone. Many people consider themselves to be “emotional eaters”. However, they have no idea how NOT to be an “emotional eater”.
Many clients know the right foods to eat and how to exercise, many however do not do it in real life, why? What makes doing the right thing so difficult? Here is an insight for you that just may help you begin to unravel your personal answer to that question.
Our relationship with food can take us on a journey of self-inquiry. It can lead us to some very interesting places if we let it. There are fields of psychology, maybe called Parts Therapy or Gestalt, that say “you are not a person, you’re kind of a crowd.” There is me the woman, but I am also a mother, sister, coach, teacher. I can be a really confident person, I can be a jerk, I can be calm, I can be anxious.
We all have these aspects of ourselves that live inside us, all at the same time. There is fascinating research that shows in a classic personality disorder patient when they switch personalities, their psychological parameters will change. Every personality has its own metabolic profile: heart rate, blood pressure, galvanic skin response, hormonal picture. There are cases where these individuals exhibit diabetes in one personality and no diabetes in the other or others. One personality wears glasses the other or others doesn’t need their eyes corrected. There have been clinically documented cases where one personality will have a citrus allergy, and if they eat fruit they get hives. But when they switch personalities, the researcher will watch the hives disappear as they switch over. Fascinating stuff for sure.
So at any given moment, one of these different personas, me as a woman, me as a girl, me as a wife, me as a mother, sister, teacher, is setting at the head of the table. So the person sitting down at the meal..is it the Amy that likes food? or is it the Amy that fights with her food? is it the grown woman who has educated herself on food and nutrients or is it the little girl who was abused and is searching for comfort food to make her feel better? Interesting, yes?
Many times there is a personality that takes over the relationship with food, and we are not aware of it. Regaining control is about noticing this aspect and invoking who you want to sit at the head of the table.
I am here to help you navigate that terrain.
Eat well. Live well. Be well.